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By marmelade
on September 23 2002 at 10:05 pm
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20, Male
Lindsay
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Member Since: September 23 2002
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it's sad that it's come to this
but this is what it's come to.
welcome me like you've welcomed my mother.
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Message by Morning Star
on September 23 2002 at 10:45 pm
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Welcome to the diaries....a place where you'll find some amazing support.....
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Message by Debbie
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Howdy...Pull up a chair, make yourself cozy and welcome aboard
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Message by want2surrender
on September 24 2002 at 12:31 am
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Welcome Marmelade glad you are here, and things could be sadder. There could be no place to go. Lots of friendly people here and lots of support.
tain't easy tain't hard tis life
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Message by High Hopes
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Hello and
Tell us a bit about yourself????
Bright Blessings ~Lynn~ Quit 9/8/2003
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Message by Vlinder
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Yes it is sad that it has come to this and your mother doesn't deserve that. She is so VERY proud of you, loving you with all her heart. This is not the way to deal with the problems, this is creating problems. I am a great friend of your mother's and I am sure there is a way outside the journals to talk about the pain you both suffer. Time will heal the pain. Wishing you strength and patience and know that she will always love you! Take Care Marmelade!
Elenor
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Message by Lisa
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not sure what's going on here but if you have come to quit, welcome and I hope we can help ya
Lisa
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Message by Rubyread
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Hi Marmelade. Sometimes life is very sad. I've had some sad times in my life lately too. But, I've also had some moments of great joy and understanding. I am going through a nasty divorce and I have 4 children. I went to a meeting the other night and here is what one person shared with me regarding my children: "The divorce is between you and your husband. In spite of how much you want to explain yourself to your children, how much you want them to see your side of this, it is NOT right to talk about these issues freely with the children. They love both parents, as nature and the Universe intended and it hurts them when you try to make them choose one over the other." Later that same evening, a man shared this with me: "My parents divorced when I was only a small child. Many years later, when I was a grown man about 40 yrs old, long after my father had passed away, my mother said something unkind about him and it hurt me so much! I didn't like my mother very much that day. And even tho I was a grown man of 40, it still hurt me. Never say anything about your husband to your children, okay?" and I won't.
Unfortunately when we are tossed out of our cozy worlds into the stormy seas of a divorce, the poor children are also thrown overboard. The fighting parents stand up, rock the boat, and cause it to tip over. Who gets hurt? The children who are innocent. That is enough horror, without continuing in more trouble. There is a time to heal, a time to swim for safety, a time to try not to place blame, a time to try to just make a better world, build a new boat, and move on. It isn't easy for anybody. And even tho it feels right to place blame, to investigate until you find the cause, to thoroughly search for reasons, it's not always a good thing to know all about everything. If I told my girls that my husband beat me, would that be a good thing? If told my girls that he hurt me constantly, would that help them? Or, would it be selfish of me? I think it hurts everybody. And sometimes we need to find answers that heal and prevent more hurt. I hope I helped you. And by the way, I'm a very good friend of your Mother's and I love her dearly. She's a great woman! And you are somebody she has always said she loved very very much! She writes about you and her words fairly sing. That is really all you need to know maybe. 
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Message by ChinHi
on October 07 2002 at 3:33 am
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Aloha !
Welcome
   
KCL = Keep Choosin' LIFE
"Never leave another quitter behind" by BTBASSER
Namaste
Mahalo Karyn and lindy our SHEROs
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