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On Three Good Years (Give or Take a few Days)  
By bluephoenix  on April 13 2008 at 10:43 pm

31, Female
WI, United States
Member Since: February 10 2005


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This much I know to be true: If you keep stringing the days together- one after the other with out smoking-before long, what you will have gained is years.

I am indebted to this site, to so many of the people here. You helped me find my wings. These days I have been trying them out. Quitting is a process, not an event. And it is a long one at that. But a good ride, I’d recommend to anyone.

Sometimes I look back at the stages of this quit. The self discovery. The surprises. The growth. I am pretty damn proud of myself, really. Pretty damn proud.

The last stage I hit kind of threw me. I woke up one day and just knew it was time to leave the nest. Leaving is the wrong word, because I will still come by from time to time. I still root for every single one of you to beat this thing. But I just woke up one day and realized all of the other things I want to pursue. And then I counted the hours in my day and I knew it really was time for me.

I didn’t want to write about it at the time. It was hard for me. A little sad, a little scary…But then I realized, this is what I came here for. I claimed my life back and I am going to live it.

Life is good. The husband is nearly a month quit now. It seems to be sticking. The weather, though a bit manic-depressive, is giving into warmer days here and there. Baby child and I have been hiking in the hills. I am putting a good amount of time into my novel. We’ve had some lucky breaks at work. Our tax refund was magically enough to fix the roof. I’m grateful. And I am three years free.

Much love always,

Leah
Smoking is an insult to all we have been blessed with.  

Message by Babs  View Journal on April 13 2008 at 10:58 pm 
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OH!  The best news ever is your Husband quitting... Good for you Hubby!

Come here for support if you need it.

I am so happy and can't wait for your three year celebration on Wednesday Blue!

I am really, really thrilled about the novel!


Not One Puff Ever and
Keep a Sense of Humor.
Babs ~ 9/15/06


Message by betsy  View Journal on April 13 2008 at 11:10 pm 
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I was thinking about you the other day

good to hear from you Leah...don't be a stranger for too long at a time

tell hubby Congrats...that is awesome

congrats to you 3 years is good stuff!!!


betsy QD 11/10/03
Today is the best day to not smoke!

Message by chefgirl  View Journal on April 14 2008 at 12:12 am 
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Wow three yrs is amazing-good for you!  congrats to your hubby as well!!

 


Friendship is like peeing on yourself. Everyone can see it, but only you get the warm feeling it brings xxoo Beth

Message by Joppette  View Journal on April 14 2008 at 12:26 am 
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Hi Leah, I've so missed you.  You know?  Over the years, I've thought about "cutting the apron strings".  I had to find a way to put this into perspective, just like other things in my life.  I've made some wonderful friends here, and it'd take a lot of time to email them all separately.  it's somehow quicker to stay in touch here.  So, i set limits now.  I allow myself to wake up in the morning here.  I need about 1/2 hour to get the sleep out of my head, and i do it here.  I'm not a coffee drinker, so this is my wake up place.  Now I don't have a baby child to keep me on my toes so my perspective is different.

Unless I'm just sitting around with not much to do (which is a lot these days with the recovery from foot surgery), I don't come here during the day.  I may stop in quick if someone wrote a particularly interesting or funny post and i want to read others reactions to it, When I am working the front desk at Gilda's club and it is slow, I spend time here too.  And then in the evening, when it gets slow, the TV is crap, and Hubs goes to sleep which is usually by 9:00 to 10:00), I stop back in to see what is up. 

This place's people are responsible for my successful quit.  When I had to endure the pain and lonliness of lung cancer and it's ensuing therapies, this place was a soft place for me to land.  I could share whatever, and it was okay.  It was not so with my family.

I understand where you are coming from.  I'm so happy you are pursuing your dream of writing a book.  You are very talented.  I'm glad you do stop by from time to time.  Love the updated pictures of your child.  My word, she is growing up so fast. I love this picture.

Congrats on your three years.  That's a good mile stone.  Celebrate it.

Judy


Judy

Living with lung cancer since 2007, and still doing it! Smoke free.
QD: 12/3/2004

Message by smokeless joe  View Journal on April 14 2008 at 1:25 am 
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i didnt know that your husband had quit (which shows how little time i spend here myself, these days) ... good for him, and big congrats to you on 3 years !

Message by syscokid  View Journal on April 14 2008 at 2:12 am 
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Congrats on three great years of discovery. Enjoy life, enjoy being smoke free. Congrats again

Dave

 


Dave

Quit chewing 08-31-10 and quit smoking 11-30-05

Message by Sorilea  View Journal on April 14 2008 at 2:56 am 
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I understand totally leaving the nest.  I have so very little time for myself and then I find I'm spending time I should be trying to sleep here wanting to catch up on what's going on with everyone else.  I'm glad to hear that your hubby has quit now.  You set a wonderful example for him to follow.  Things have really come together for you!

Leah, I am sooo very happy for you!  I wanted to jump up and down when I read that you are putting a good amount of time into your novel!!!  Woohoo!!!  You go girl!!!  Now don't be like me and write it and stick it in a drawer either!  You're going to get out there and get it published and I want one of the first autographed copies!!!  Please email if you stay away too long (my email address is in my profile).  I'm horrible at answering but I promise I will eventually answer.  I want to know how your book goes!  I am behind you all the way!  How exciting!


Beth - BIY-DYB
Believe In Yourself - Do Your Best
QD 07/01/09 - One year anniversary of Mom's horrible death to emphysema

Message by groucho  View Journal on April 14 2008 at 3:25 am 
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I wanted to congratulate you on the three years Leah, your now the person you should have always been (a non smoking babe with a brain!) LOL.. but yeah, just wanted to add to the congrats list and to wish you well in life and all that goes with it..You Rock!

 


You can be a good example....
Or...
A horrible warning!

Message by Crys  View Journal on April 14 2008 at 9:42 am 
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The wings look simply beautiful, sweetie.  Enjoy your fight.  It'll be an amazing one...but you know that already, don't you? 
Crys

Life dances and you have to dance with it...whether it is taking you on a wonderful ride, or is stepping on your toes.

Message by Lucky  View Journal on April 16 2008 at 5:38 am 
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Nicotine free since February 2001

Message by Babs  View Journal on April 16 2008 at 10:41 am 
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3 YEARS IS AWESOME !!!
WHO HOO HOO
BLUE!
I am a poet now! lol
 

Not One Puff Ever and
Keep a Sense of Humor.
Babs ~ 9/15/06


Message by sweetp  View Journal on April 16 2008 at 1:26 pm 
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10010412.gif kissing smiley image by wynonna_album

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR WONDERFUL FREEDOM LEAH...!

HAPPY WEDNESDAY...!


Hugs Colleen
"Today I choose not to smoke..."


Message by ChinHi  View Journal on April 16 2008 at 1:34 pm 
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YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

oh my hte baby is NOT a baby anymore LOOK at her !!






KCL = Keep Choosin' LIFE
"Never leave another quitter behind" by BTBASSER
Namaste
Mahalo Karyn and lindy our SHEROs
7/25/01

Message by Kat_fairykats  View Journal on April 16 2008 at 4:48 pm 
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There is too much sadness in me still to reply to this. But I am thinking of you today and always.
"When you quit, your forevers will come to you."

Message by Missdaphne  View Journal on April 16 2008 at 9:40 pm 
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I miss seeing you but I am glad that you are at a place where you don't need us to stay clean.  That is a powerful moment.  I envy that your husband is getting clean.  I hope I can say the same someday soon.
"Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon." Don't know who said it first but I like it.

Message by betsy  View Journal on May 16 2008 at 10:05 am 
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congrats Leah on another month of freedom

I miss ya...how is baby girl doing?

hope all is well in your neck of the woods

love ya


betsy QD 11/10/03
Today is the best day to not smoke!

Message by Babs  View Journal on May 16 2008 at 10:25 am 
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First Draft!

blue_phoenix2620x611.jpg picture by brother27 


Not One Puff Ever and
Keep a Sense of Humor.
Babs ~ 9/15/06


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